Prenups stem from not understanding sacramental marriage

Re: “Prenups, marriage: No match made in heaven” (News Analysis, April 30-May 6).

Excellent article! So many engaged couples don’t truly understand the Sacrament of Marriage, and taking a marriage prep course like Catholic Marriage Prep is a wonderful way for them to be educated on how beautiful it is through the use of Scripture, the Catechism, etc. My husband and I took the course before we married, and it was a treasure of information and tools to understand more fully what the sacrament is and to learn more about each other.

If couples truly understood the sacrament and the grace God gives them to grow and persevere in their married life, and if they believed it was a lifelong commitment, they would not consider a prenup agreement except for necessities.

Kathleen Tobin, via online comment

Prenups and marriage

Re: “Prenups, marriage: No match made in heaven” (News Analysis, April 30-May 6).

A Time.com article cites three reasons as appropriate justifications for a prenup: “you’ll get to know your financial obligations in a divorce”; “you’ll get a jumpstart on your shared finances”; and “you’ll get a crash course in communication and compromise.” There are problems with these reasonings. It turns the commitment of a marriage into more of a contractual business proposition that can, in turn, corrode the very nature of the sacredness of the commitment itself by demonstrating a lack of faith in the partner before they are even married. It makes the prospect of divorce a much more enticing option when one spouse simply gets “bored” with the marriage. And also, if a couple needs a “crash course” in communication and compromise, then they probably shouldn’t be getting married to begin with. That’s why taking pre-Cana marriage prep courses can be an invaluable tool prior to the commitment so there won’t need to be any business contracts and “crash courses.” It’s demeaning to the spouse and, in many ways, delegitimizes the sacredness of marriage itself.

Patrick Hernandez, via online comment

Religious communities

Re: “Katharine Drexel shrine to close at year’s end” (News Analysis, April 23-29).

It appears that many religious communities are coming to an end in our times. I imagine this is happening for a variety of reasons. In their place many new communities are being called into existence by Our Lord to continue to bring his love to us all. We should give thanks for all those who have existed and the wonderful work they have done and for those new communities starting out.

Elleblue Jones, via online comment

Prison system

Re: “Incentivized Incarceration: For Profit Prisons”

I am grateful to OSV and Nicholas W. Smith for exposing the morally challenged private prison industry for a Catholic audience. Private prisons in America are notorious for increased violence, human rights violations and civil rights lawsuits.

President Donald Trump has cast a spotlight on “criminal aliens” who immigrate to the United States legally or illegally, commit crimes and are thus to be deported to their countries of origin. It is easy to view this issue from the cold distance of politics and policy, however a closer examination of the process tells a more heart-wrenching story. Some of these men have served their sentences and accepted the consequence of removal to their native lands. Then they are held as ICE detainees in either government or private jails, sometimes for months on end, while a wad of money changes hands.

Government-run county jails with contracts to hold ICE detainees are sometimes no less driven by the profit margin, collecting upwards of $100 per day per detainee while spending only a small fraction of that on their care. In the end, the cost to taxpayers can end up being 100 times the actual cost of placing a detainee aboard a plane bound for home.

Father Gordon J. MacRae, Concord, New Hampshire
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