‘Do Not Be Afraid’

Most of us come into the world with pure minds and with pure hearts. We come into the world with clean minds and clean hearts. We come into the world totally connected with our inner spirit. We come into the world connected with our inner wisdom. We come into the world totally connected with God.

As we grow up, we pick up wrong messages from the media and the adults around us. We pick up negative messages about ourselves. We pick up wrong messages about who we are and what we can become.

These negative messages often contribute to our unhappiness and our fears. These false messages and false beliefs often contribute to our discontent and our fears. These erroneous messages often contribute to our self-destructive fears.

A World of Fear

Fear is so pervasive in our lives that we live in a world of fear. We fear living. We fear dying. We fear having too much. We fear having too little. We fear the past. We fear the coming year. We give into our fears.

Fear is the cause of many of our behaviors. We put people down because we fear they will hurt us. We distance ourselves from others because we fear they will judge us. We distance ourselves from God because we fear He will judge us.

We often fear to speak out passionately in defense of human life. The home with a mother and father is of great value to the Church and to civic society, yet we fear to speak out in defense of marriage as the union of one man and one woman.

Religious Liberty

We often fear to speak out and be faithful to our call to stand for religious liberty. We have inappropriate sexual relationships because we fear we are not lovable. We do not get married because we fear permanent commitments.

We do not have a church wedding ceremony because we fear failure. In fear, we fail to protect the sanctity of marriage. We simply cohabit because we fear the wedding ceremony is a waste of time and money.

We do not speak up and do not speak out because we fear it will not win us approval. We do not express our Christian viewpoints because we fear they will not be accepted. We fear making mistakes, and we fear looking foolish. We live in fear.

We operate out of fear. We are dishonest in the present because we fear punishment. We cheat on examinations because we fear failure. We do not plan for the future because we fear there may well be no future.

Fears of Women and Men

Women more than men are often afraid they will ask too much. They are afraid of not being attractive. They are afraid of being unworthy. They are afraid of being hurt. They are afraid of being ignored.

Women more than men often fear being abandoned. They are afraid of being rejected. They are afraid of not being supported. They are afraid of being forgotten. They fear that they are not good enough.

Men more than women fear that they will not get a lucrative job. They are afraid they will not achieve. They are afraid they will not earn enough. They are afraid they will not climb the corporate ladder.

Men more than women are afraid they will not succeed on the job. They are afraid they will not be able to put bread on the table. They are afraid they will not win out there in the competitive world.

God tells Jeremiah, “Do not be afraid” (1:17). He tells Jeremiah to stand firm in delivering his message to the people of Judah. He is to face his fears. He is to erase his fears. He is to be fearless in responding to his call.

Jesus said we need to face our fears. We need to admit our fears. We need to confess our fears. We need to understand our fears. We need to uncover what is going on. We are not helpless victims.

Jesus said that, no matter what fears you may have, “Do not be afraid.” God is in the mess. God is in your fears. God is in your pain. God is in your suffering. God is there to bless you. God is there to help you.

The priest says to you at Mass, “The Lord be with you.” The Lord is close. His words give us courage. We celebrate that we are not alone. The Lord is risen. He is here with you. Do not be afraid.

“When the doors were locked, where the disciples were for fear of the Jews, Jesus came and stood in their midst and said to them, ‘Peace be with you’” (Jn 20:19).

MSGR. MORGAN, a New Jersey licensed psychologist, is a retired priest of the Diocese of Camden.