No surprises here

It was extremely sad. It also was quite revealing in terms of just how far we have gone down the slippery slope. But the headline and article recently posted on the Charisma News website was not surprising — at least not to me. 

“Holland discusses ‘group marriage’ as next step.” 

Some might find it shocking that I wasn’t shocked by the story. My reaction, however, is not the result of a bad case of cynicism or apathy. It’s quite the opposite. This story just confirmed for me the accuracy and power of Church teaching regarding the natural law.  

In addition to 2,000 years of Church teaching, numerous encyclicals and documents, as well as our belief in marriage as a sacrament, we also have plenty of sociological evidence showing how marriage between one man and a woman is beneficial to spouses, to their children and to society at large. For example, according to a report issued by the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops last year titled “Marriage and the Family in the United States: Resources for Society,” children raised in intact families with both mother and father present are more likely to attend college, and are physically and emotionally healthier than their peers raised in non-married families. They are also less likely to suffer from depression, anxiety and drug abuse. 

The article on the Dutch group marriage proposal was posted just days before the U.S. Supreme Court heard oral arguments on both California’s voter-approved Proposition 8, which upholds marriage between one man and one woman, and the 1996 federal Defense of Marriage Act signed by President Clinton; a measure which also defines marriage as a union between one man and one woman.  

The Charisma piece takes a look at an interview former Dutch politician Boris Dittrich gave to a European news agency regarding how he was successful in helping to redefine marriage in his country. It’s another case of the frog in the pot of boiling water. You try to put the frog in that boiling water and he jumps right out. It’s much easier to cook the frog by slowly turning up the heat. 

“We thought it might be psychologically better to first introduce registered partnerships. It was a good decision because people got used to legally recognize gay unions and called them gay marriages.” 

The next “logical” step, as he phrased it, was to “introduce full gay marriage by law.” He then admitted there are now discussions concerning marriage for more than two people. Three-way relationships have been recognized under a cohabitation agreement. 

The report goes on to mention some other signs of the times: 

◗ In Canada schools have been encouraged to display posters promoting the acceptance of polygamy. 

◗ In Brazil, a relationship of more than two people has been officially recognized. 

◗ In Australia, a campaign group has formed to push for legal rights for “polyamorous” relationships. 

“Polyamorous” refers to “the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time.” The fact that this word can be found in the dictionary should tell you something. If marriage is reduced to an emotional bond between adults, what difference does it make if that “bond” is between two, three, four or 10 adults?  

God and his Church, along with the fallout from broken and misguided relationships, gave us plenty of warnings of where we would end up. Warnings of a “dictatorship of relativism” spoken of so often by Pope Emeritus Benedict have become our stark reality. 

Teresa Tomeo is the host of “Catholic Connection,” produced by Ave Maria Radio and heard daily on EWTN Global Catholic Radio and Sirius Channel 160.

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