Va. (CNS) -- Maryel Rodgers sat beside a stranger named Grace.
woman lay still "under a purple fleece blanket sprinkled with brightly colored
hearts and edged with broad fringes," recalled Rodgers. "Her graying hair
spilled across the pillow. Her breath was firm and steady. She seemed to be
unaware of the commotion of the busy hospital unit."
a poster on the door, Rodgers learned that Grace enjoyed dancing and oldies
music. She had a husband and daughter. Grace looked about Rodgers' own age, and
she softly began to speak to the woman about what they might have had in
common. Eventually, she had to leave.
do I say goodbye? I am looking at you, robed in that soft blanket of royal
purple and I think of the woman in the Gospel story who was eager to touch the
fringes of Jesus' garment," Rodgers wrote in her journal, which was later
published in an Ignatian Volunteer Corps newsletter. "Let me now touch the
fringes of your garment as you move into eternity. Thank you for your company."
a parishioner of Our Lady, Queen of Peace Church in Arlington, was one of the
first Ignatian volunteers to spend time with a patient in their last moments as
part of the No One Dies Alone program at Georgetown University Hospital in
the past two years, when someone in the hospital is dying without family or
friends nearby, volunteers have come to spend a few hours by their bedside.
national program began in 2001 with an Oregon nurse named Sandra Clarke. One
day as she started her shift, a dying man asked if she could sit with him for a
while. She promised she'd return after she checked on her other patients. When
she came back, the man had died. His passing inspired her to begin No One Dies
Orrell, a palliative care nurse at Georgetown, and her co-worker, Dr. Robin
Gross, started the program there.
feel very strongly about patient advocacy and I have a tender spot for the
vulnerable patient," Orrell told the Arlington Catholic Herald, newspaper of
the Diocese of Arlington. "Georgetown as an institution really values the
dignity of every human life. In my work I'm able to uphold that value and it
gives me great satisfaction." The pair called on different churches and groups
team of about 15 volunteers initially went through training to learn about the
dying process, both the physical signs and the spiritual aspects, said Orrell.
is a regular support group to help the volunteers process the many emotions
that can accompany witnessing death. The volunteers usually have a sense of how
to be most helpful to the dying person, said Orrell. Some will play music or
read poetry or sacred texts. Sometimes they'll hold the patient's hand.
think all of them have learned about themselves and who they are, and I think
being able to give a deep human connection is a very satisfying thing," she
said. Each believes in the simple but profound act of accompanying the dying.
majority of the patients are not alert or awake, said Orrell. Some are weak
from having endured a draining illness; some are hooked up to machines. As the
outward signs of their humanity diminish, having someone stand watch can
restore a bit of the humanity that's obscured in the dying process, said Orrell.
volunteers give back to the staff in addition to the patients. They bring a
fresh perspective in terms of us ensuring the patients' comfort," she said.
"They remind us of the patients' humanity. It's always a good thing."
of the patients have outlived family and friends, or have loved ones that live
too far away or are too busy to stay at the hospital for long periods of time.
In one unusual circumstance, a man was dying of cancer and his wife was in the
Intensive Care Unit due to a stress-induced break down. A No One Dies Alone
volunteer split her time between the husband and wife. "Families are incredibly
grateful that the patient is not alone," said Orrell.
"I just think that human presence is so
important at the end of someone's life," she said. "People are not alone when
they're born and they should not be alone when they die."