In the Family: Prove It to Yourself in Just a Minute
To confirm that actions speak louder than words, try a little experiment. It takes just a minute. During this minute you should close your eyes, sit back, and relax. But first, read the next paragraph.
I have been conducting this experiment for years, and except for two very special cases, the answer has always been the same. We remember what our parents did. We remember how they lived.
Isn’t that surprising? After all, good parents are giving directions constantly. “Do this! Don’t to that! Yada, yada, yada.” Yet what sticks and continues to shape our lives long after our parents are gone is not so much what they said, but what they did. (In fact, if what they said contradicted what they did, we rejected their advice as hypocritical.)
If you are a parent who fears that your children don’t listen to a thing you say, this new awareness may give you some consolation and reason to hope for the future. It’s not your words so much as your deeds that matter to your children.
Of course, if your behavior needs improvement, there’s no better time to work on it than right now — before it does further harm shaping your children’s long-term development.
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